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Niceness doesn't mean stepping on a person's feelings...

If being nice means stepping on others' feeling, then that is not nice. Recently, being friends with a 'so-called' nice person, opened my eyes to the difference between nice and not. Normally I send messages on my mobile phone (which averages to 100+ messages depending on whether I am on unlimited text load). My messages ranges from quotes (inspirational, morning, love etc.), jokes, or just plain hi and how are you doing today. So receiving my messages within the day (let's say 5 or more), think of it as normal. And if I send a text message that happen to center on love, then it was probably just a forward (like I am doing at the moment). If by any chance that the message was misread, it's on the understanding of the reader, whether he or she would like to read it as either tragic, inspirational or for that matter a professing of one's own feelings. On my case, it happened. It was misread, without asking it personally from me if I meant the message or not! The worst part was, it was shared with someone I also know (a friend) in detail. If being nice meant replying back to my messages so as not to hurt my feelings without asking whether what I really feel was the message I sent and that I assumed the whole entire scenario is not nice. It's being, let me put in words: RUDE! CONCEITED! SELF-CENTERED! ASSUMING! Now that's what I called assuming. This person should have asked me in the beginning what the messages meant whether they were a forward or not (which some of my friends do when they get confused with the messages that they get from me, asking me whether I sent the right message). My regret with the whole situation was, I gave something (which came from my heart as I am a generally giving person) to this 'so-called' person with no malice whatsoever and with all the good intentions I have in mind.

Right now, I definitely test the waters first before I become friends with someone... Makes you really think if the person is really worth the friendship and the time.

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Anonymous said…
We need to to be meaner next time.
No more nice little ladies ;-)
January 18, 2009 at 5:19 AM
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